An exercise in introspection
Hello everyone. I’ve been caught in the hamster wheel of life – school runs, extra mural activities with the kids and coursework recently – with very little time for myself. Today, I’m stepping back and breathing. Today, I’m indulging in a bit of introspection.
I stumbled on an article recently – like me the writer was feeling a bit out of touch with her “self”. So, she sat down and asked herself a list of questions. It was a simple exercise. The goal was to stop, contemplate and answer.
The benefit was twofold – not only did she reconnect with her self, she also got to appreciate many things about her being that she simply took for granted. And for me – I got to learn a few interesting facts about a person I only knew professionally.
So, here’s my version of this exercise. Have a read, and please let me know what you think.
Maybe share a few things about yourself as you take a few minutes to reconnect with you.
Do you have a middle name?
No. My parents, thankfully, kept it simple.
When was the last time you cried?
January 17 – when my son started Grade 8.
Do you have kids?
I have two – who are my inspiration in life.
If you were another person, would you be a friend of yourself?
Of course! The question is would I be a friend of the other person!
Do you use sarcasm a lot?
Sarcasm makes the world an interesting place. How could I not use it?
Introvert or Extrovert?
I’m a bit of both. I’m not prone to initiating a conversation but once the ice is broken, I’m happy to talk and listen.
I prefer small groups. “Rent a crowd” is my pet hate.
While I enjoy good company I also value my own space and guard it jealously – maybe it’s an only-child thing. Alone time allows me to recharge my batteries and be a better person to the world.
What’s the first thing you notice about people?
Their body language. Observing a person with his/her back to me is my favourite thing. It gives me huge insight into their personality.
Scary movie or happy endings?
Definitely happy endings. I’m a glass-half-full person – always have been. While I am rooted a person must always dream, right?
Clean, fresh sheets and my kids’ hair.
What’s the furthest you’ve ever been from home?
Distance is relative and depends entirely on my state of mind. A trip to Johannesburg for work can often leave me feeling very isolated and depressed. While a trip to the Far East with the people I care about could be the best time of my life.
But in literal terms – I suppose The Far East is the furthest I’ve been.
Wonder if I’ll travel to the moon!
Do you have any special talents?
Reading people and situations well. I observe and analyse at length and most often I’m spot on in my conclusions.
What are your hobbies?
Reading and swimming – most things solitary.
How would you describe your fashion sense?
Effortless and edgy. Keep the frills and bling away!
Do you have any pets?
I have 4 cats – Zeke, Loki, Chloë and Zeppelin – and 2 dogs – Jack and Skye. They’re all rescues bar Jack, who arrived at our door on a rainy day. My partner was sent out with instructions to buy a tumble dryer. He came home with Jack! Six years later and we don’t have a tumble dryer.
Do you have any siblings?
I am an only child. I am ambivalent about this. It can be lonely without siblings and when my mum died a few months ago I longed for the comfort and understanding a sibling would have brought. But as an only child, I also had my parents’ undivided attention and I learnt to be independent and confident from a young age.
What do you want to be when you grow up?
Do we ever truly grow up? But if I do I want to be an improved version of who I am.
What do you do?
Hahaha – that’s a story for a novel. I’m currently taking some much-needed time off from chasing a pay cheque. I’m improving my skills in social media management and web design, writing my blog and editing. Essentially, I’m rewriting my story a bit. Watch this space for what the “happy ending” will be!
How tall are you?
150cm – vertically challenged much!
What was your favourite/worst subject in high school?
English and music were my favourites.
Afrikaans is the hands down winner for my worst, most hated subject – and I still curse under my breath when I help my kids with their homework.
Favourite memory from childhood?
Shopping with Mum – when she indulged my fascination for gadgets.
What phone do you have? (iOS v Android?)
One bad habit
Procrastinating. Hey I work well under pressure – keeps me on my toes when I test this every now and then.
Computer or Television?
Computer – it’s all about the interaction.
Favourite TV shows?
The Big Bang Theory, Queen Sugar and Flesh and Bone.
Can you cook?
Moving swiftly along …
Summer or Winter?
My taste in music is so varied – I love The Smiths, Morrissey and The Cure. But I also enjoy Adele and Lady Gaga. This must be the most difficult question I’ve had to consider – go figure!